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About the ten or
twenty other men that saw her that day who didn't have the nerve to
talk to her... and the two or three that did...?
About the most-likely BORING job that she went to, the
same-old-same-old "Wow, you're beautiful" lines that she heard from
the guys who got up the nerve to talk to her?
Did you ever consider that it might be useful to take a little time
out and consider what it might be like to be an attractive woman,
walking through life having almost every man you see light up with
the "Whoa" look?
Hmmm...
What do you think we might be able to figure out if we just took a
few minutes to explore what that attractive woman's PRIVATE life is
like?
Here are a few things that I've come up with:
1) Most attractive women are BORED OUT OF THEIR MINDS by most men.
One of the reasons for this is that guys have NO IDEA what to do
when they run into an attractive woman, so they do the same default
thing: Dumb look, compliment.
2) As I've said before, and I'm sure I'll say many many many times
in the future: You can't BORE a woman into feeling attracted to you.
If she's most likely got a boring life like everyone else, and you
do something that every one of the other 499 guys she's going to
walk by this month did, then you're probably not going to attract
any special attention.
3) If you just start with the idea of NOT DOING WHAT OTHER GUYS DO
you will be WAAAAYYYY ahead of the game.
Wow, this is fun, isn't it? Bet you never thought you'd be thinking
like a woman, did ya?
So what are a few things you might do to:
1) Not be like the other 499 boring, predictable, "nice" loser guys
she encountered.
2) Be interesting, attractive, attention-getting in a way that makes
her feel like you might actually be someone to provide her with a
pinch of spice for her life?
I thought you'd never ask...
And, as you may have already predicted, I have a few ideas of my own
(but don't let that stop you from thinking about this on your own as
often as you get a chance).
To start with, you'd probably want to get rid of the "Wow, you're a
beautiful woman, and I'm just an average guy admiring you" vibe.
That's not helping.
Next, you could take a moment and think about how a guy that she
would feel ATTRACTED to might act... then choose that style.
My experience is that if you take an attitude of "I guess fate has
good taste putting us in the same place, now let's see if you have a
personality to match your looks", then stir in a generous portion of
Cocky and Funny, you're likely to do well.
Here's a variation of something I've used myself once or twice.
YOU: "Hey, can I ask you a quick question?" [leaning back and
playing it cool, talking cool and slow]
HER: "Sure"
[pause pause pause for suspense]
YOU: "Are you single?" [stone cold straight face]
HER: "Well, um..."
YOU: "I'll take that as a yes..." [nodding, sly smile]
HER: [Laugher]
YOU: "Well, I just happen to know someone that I think might really
like you... if you're more than just a pretty face, that is... He's
funny, has great taste, and I think you'd like him... I'd love to
sit down and get your life story, but I'm on my way somewhere... do
you have email?" [very cool, calm tone of voice]
HER: "Yes."
YOU: Great... [takes out pen]... write it down for me, and I'll
have, uh [clears throat] HIM send you an email."
[Get email and wish the lady a good day.]
Now, let's talk about what just happened here.
First off, did I give her any compliments? Did I act like the other
499 guys? Did I instantly communicate that "I'm not worthy"?
HELL NO.
I said "Hey, can I ask you a quick question?" in a very laid-back,
almost too-relaxed and mysterious tone of voice.
Anyone will respond to that with a "yes".
Next, I did something kind of fun: I asked her DIRECTLY if she was
single.
LOL... I really love this one. It's so fun. Most guys will say "Uh,
I'll bet you have a boyfriend, huh?" or "So do you have a man?" or
some other lame thing.
The question "Are you single?" takes women off guard. It's great.
And then being assumptive when she hesitated with an answer... in a
cocky/funny way... magic.
Next I followed up with a cocky, funny, semi-confusing little bit
about "knowing someone" that might find her interesting. Now, she
might think that it's really ME, but she won't know FOR SURE until
she gets the email.
And even then you might play with her a bit... "So, what did you
think of my friend? I think he might like you..." etc.
The point is, I can pretty much guarantee you that this particular
sequence hasn't happened to her lately.
She's still trying to overcome her sheer awe about how many guys in
a row can ask "Don't I know you from somewhere?"
This kind of fun approach will be a welcome breath of fresh air.
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