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I remember when I
first read all this stuff. I thought to myself "Wow, cool! I must
have been missing these hints because I didn't know to look for
them. Now I'll know when a woman is interested in me...".
Well, there was ONE SMALL problem...
The problem is that women display these MAJOR INTEREST signals in
about 1 of 1,000 interactions with men...
And there was one BIG problem...
That problem was that none of the damn books I read said a single
thing about how to MAKE women give you these signals. In other
words, what I realized is that average guys like me who don't get
"approached" by women need to learn not only WHAT to look for, but,
more importantly, how to actually CREATE ATTRACTION in women so they
GAVE me these signals in the FIRST PLACE.
So let me share with you some ideas on how to MAKE women feel
ATTRACTION for you... and then I'll share some ideas on what to LOOK
FOR to tell if a woman is interested.
And my ideas will be a WEEEEEE BIT different than the ones you read
in your flirting books. OK, so you're out at a bar with a few
friends, and it's time to meet some interesting women.
You look around, and none of the hot young babes in there seem to be
tilting their heads to one side, looking you in the eye, and licking
their lips... so you decide to DO SOMETHING.
What do most guys do in this situation?
Either:
1) Nothing, because they're scared, or...
2) Something typical, like ask a girl to dance, or if he can buy her
a drink.
If you're guilty of doing these, raise your hand. Then take your
raised hand, and slap yourself silly. Not too hard. But silly.
Here's a thought for you...
If you put 100 guys in a bar with one beautiful women sitting alone,
and you say to all 100 of the guys "Hey guys, which one of you can
walk over to that woman and do something to make that woman feel a
SEXUAL ATTRACTION for you?"... I'd say that if you're LUCKY, one of
them will claim that he can do it.
In other words, for most guys, the idea of walking up to a girl they
don't know and doing something that will TRIGGER an attraction is
completely outside of their universe.
This is one of the reasons why guys do things like asking girls to
dance, buying them drinks, etc. Now, something you must understand
when it comes to women and ATTRACTION is that women don't feel
ATTRACTION for WUSSIES.
ATTRACTION isn't a CHOICE.
It isn't logical (at least, on the surface). But once you start to
"get it", everything changes. Your entire perspective changes once
you "get it", and your results change instantly as well. So here's
something for you to try:
MESS WITH WOMEN.
That's right "mess with" them.
Tease.
Bust on.
Be difficult.
Why?
Because it INSTANTLY communicates that:
1) You could care less what she thinks of you.
2) You're a fun person.
3) You're unpredictable.
4) You're a bit of a "wild card"
5) You GET IT.
Now, you might be shaking your head right now and saying "That's
doesn't make any sense. Why would a woman feel attracted to me if I
mess with her instead of being nice?".
That's a good question.
But for now, take the hand that you slapped yourself with earlier,
and slap yourself again.
Good.
I want you to STOP following your "be nice and kiss ass" instincts
when you first meet a woman, and instead practice MESSING WITH HER.
Make fun of something. Go to hand her something, then pull it away
at the last second. Shake your head in despair and tell her that
she's screwing up her chances with you. Say something Cocky & Funny,
then turn around and walk away before she can respond to your face.
Can ya feel me, dog?
Now the good stuff...
HOW TO TELL IF SHE'S INTERESTED
Well this is what you were looking for, so here it is...
I'm going to give you a stupid-proof formula for knowing whether or
not a woman is interested in you.
Here it is:
1) You engage her.
2) She engages you back.
Yes, that's it. Please stop the applause long enough that I can
finish. You can clap later. I know that this sounds a little "Duh-ish",
but stay with me here.
If I walk into a restaurant, and the hostess asks me how many are in
my party, and I answer with "Well, there are three of us. I guess
there will be FOUR if YOU join us..." and she laughs at my joke,
then IT'S ON!
If I'm standing at the bar, and the woman next to me bumps into my
arm, and I turn and say "Hey, watch it, OK? Keep some space here, I
need at least a foot of room..." in a serious tone of voice... and
she starts playing along by smiling and moving away from me then
back again playfully, then IT'S ON!
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