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Here are some of
the signs that a guy is feeling the need to "impress" the woman that
he's talking to:
1) He tries to only say "cool" things, or things that will "impress"
the woman.
2) He acts nervous and stilted during the conversation... sometimes
coming across as "formal".
3) He tries to figure out what the woman wants to hear.
4) If he says something that the woman doesn't like, he
"back-pedals" and tries to change what he said to suit the woman.
5) He doesn't say anything "risky", doesn't tease the woman, and
doesn't do anything to upset her.
...in other words, when a guy is talking to a woman that he "likes",
he's usually on his "best behavior", and he's trying to "put his
best foot forward".
To say it again, MEN FEEL A POWERFUL DRIVE TO IMPRESS THE WOMAN THAT
THEY "LIKE". And this drive to impress often makes them act
UNNATURAL.
There's your first hint, in fact...THE SECRET
Remember at the beginning when I told you that I was going to share
a secret with you about how to impress women that not 1 in 1,000 men
will figure out on their own?
Well, here it is:
STOP TRYING.
If you will just STOP TRYING to impress women, and do the things I'm
teaching you instead, women will NATURALLY be "impressed" by you.
TRYING TO IMPRESS A WOMAN DOESN'T IMPRESS HER.
So let's break this down...
WHY IMPRESSING WOMEN IS THE WRONG ROAD
What's wrong with trying to "impress" women, anyway?
To start with, EVERYTHING.
When you intentionally try to impress a woman, you send the
following messages on a "subtle" level:
1) I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I will try to
"impress" you instead.
2) I'm not comfortable enough around women to just act normal.
3) I don't have a lot of experience with attractive women.
4) I'm insecure.
5) I don't know how to make women feel comfortable with me.
Ouch.
But it's the truth.
Women can TELL INSTANTLY when you're "trying". The conversation
doesn't feel "normal", your body language is strange, and you can't
seem to have a regular conversation.
Now of course, I've just described the way that about 99.9999% of
men act when they're first talking to a woman that they "like". Are
you ready for a profound insight?
Here goes...
MOST MEN DO THIS WITH MOST ATTRACTIVE WOMEN MOST OF THE TIME. IN
OTHER WORDS, IT'S OLD NEWS. IT'S BORING. IT'S PREDICTABLE. AND IT
DOES NOT IMPRESS AT ALL.
The bottom line is that trying to impress a woman usually has the
OPPOSITE effect. It not only makes you look like a nervous guy who
can't make normal conversation... it also bores the hell out of
women.
WHAT TO DO INSTEAD
OK, so you're out having a cup of tea with a beautiful woman you
just met a few days before...
She asks you what you do for a living.
Should you answer with:
1) "Well, I'm an engineer for a software company that makes
sophisticated vector widget plotting algorithms. I've been with them
for three years, and I'm about to be promoted to ALGORITHM MANAGER."
2) "I do stunt work. Have you ever seen it in a movie when a hot
actor has to reveal his naked ass? That's my job."
...?
Well, it all depends on what your outcome is. If you want to try and
IMPRESS the girl with your cool high-tech job, then #1 will work
just fine.
Unfortunately, it won't impress her at all, and it will make you
sound like a jackass who is trying to sound cool. If you want to
ACTUALLY impress her, try #2. Most men don't have the BALLS to say
something like this when a woman asks a "serious" question like
"What do you do?". If you REALLY want to make a long-lasting
impression, KEEP THE HUMOR GOING.
She'll say "No, really... what do you do?".
Answer with: "No, really. Haven't you ever seen it when an actor
needs a stunt ass? I mean hey... someone's got to do it".
Now, I can't possibly go into all the reasons why it's a HUGE
MISTAKE to try to impress a woman, or to feel like everything you
say should be "impressive".
There are MANY reasons for this. MORE IMPORTANTLY, there are a few
things you can do that will INSTANTLY impress a woman... and I mean
REALLY impress her.
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